I have been the primary earner in our 20 years of marriage. While he did work, it never really went to into our expenses. It was treated as discretionary income and spent on family outings mostly. We were horrible with money, still are tbh, I just couldn't stay the way things were. I was enabling him to keep us both miserable and he had no intentions of changing.
Typically when a couple divorces, the scene is always the father is paying the mom to stay in the house and keep the child while he's working and gets himself a crappy apt at the other side of town. 2 households on one 1 income is not easy. How did these fathers do it? It's unbelievable the amount of effort it takes to keep this up. Honestly its no wonder people just stay married to the wrong people.
Update to my grocery shopping gig: It's coming it about $8/hour, after gas...it's better than nothing, considering the work hasn't been very hard. I figure I can earn more as I put more hours in.
When roles are reversed.
December 24th, 2019 at 05:40 am
December 24th, 2019 at 12:52 pm 1577191966
If you have been the provider, you should be able to recover well. You have the money skills from all those years of basically supporting him, and you are already employed and secure. Having a side gig is a good idea, but don't burn yourself out!
December 25th, 2019 at 09:55 pm 1577310947
A friend just went through a divorce. Both worked. She was cheating on him and decided she didn't want to be married anymore and left him with the kids, theirs, his, and hers. In our state everything is divided equally, and although she doesn't have custody, he still has to give her monthly money. I honestly feel some of these divorce laws are just crazy -- not made by common sense folks.